"Why is feminism wrong? I'm sorry, it's just all I've heard is that it's good and it helps girls and things. We don't learn in school so I guess I'm just confused. "
Women have never been oppressed as a class in the west & in fact have always been given special provisions, protected & treated as far more precious resources than the men - there is no society which forces its women to go die in war, or do any of the most dangerous jobs in which men die in their thousands every year - men still make up around 94% of all workplace deaths, everywhere in the world today.
This is not because of any misogyny or prejudice, but simply the acceptance of the biological reality that women are for the most part smaller & weaker than men, & that also all children any society has can only be carried, birthed & (historically) nursed by women, so treating women as badly as every society treats its men risks damage to not only the individual women but the survival of the society - & the human race - itself. The female of the species is the evolutionary stop-gap: you only need one bull in a fieldful of cows to replenish the herd in a single summer, whereas a fieldful of bulls & a single cow will still only result in a single calf per year. Women therefore are more valuable to society than men are & it instructs us accordingly: “women & children first”.
All feminism is based on ‘patriarchy theory’, the belief that society has been set up by men to benefit only men & that this can be seen by how few women are presidents, prime ministers, MPs, CEOs of corporations, etc.
But this is due to what has been termed ‘the Apex Fallacy’: all human systems & groups are hierarchical, with many at the bottom & only a handful at the top. The feminists looking up at the small number of men in high status positions concluded this was evidence of male privilege, but never looked down at the huge numbers of men down at the very bottom of society: men for instance are between 80 & 90% of the homeless, & there are a hell of a lot more of them than there are Hugh Hefners & Donald Trumps.
Feminists (correctly) observe that when you count up the lifetime earnings of all men & all women, the total in the ‘women’ column is less than that of the ‘men’s’ but (incorrectly) conclude that therefore “women make 70cents for every dollar a man makes doing the same job” etc. This is simply not true, & there have been laws making sure that is illegal for at least 40 years.
The ‘pay-gap’, where it exists at all, is the result of the different priorities & choices men & women have & make - for instance a married man with kids is much more likely to work longer hours than a single guy with no wife & children to feed, whereas a married woman with kids will most often work less hours, or part-time, or not at all. Again, only women can carry & give birth to children & an enormous number of women take maternity leave from their jobs, many times never returning to work, while men are more likely to continue in their jobs & so gain promotions etc. Women tend to (sensibly) trade off a better life & more time to enjoy it against higher wages & high-stress responsibility/accountability that can only be acquired through single-minded pursuit of career at the expense of everything else. Men work the overwhelming majority of overtime, night shifts, danger work etc, which all pay more than safe, secure day jobs in air-conditioned offices, etc.
The real disparity is mainly between married women & everyone else: childless, never married women in their twenties now make something like 12% more than men their same age, & it’s been that way for quite some time. But by lumping in the vast number of women who don’t ‘work’ at all, or take maternity leave, or stay home to raise children or work part-time (men work the vast majority of overtime, for instance, whereas women work most part-time jobs, & full-time work of course pays more than part-time), the statistics become seriously skewed, as does society’s impression of the situation.
Other common feminist complaints such as ‘100 years ago women didn’t even have the vote!’ completely ignore the fact that 100 years ago the majority of men didn’t have the vote either - in my country, the UK, ‘men’ as a class ‘got’ the vote the same year women did: 1918, though I was never taught that at school. The story of women’s suffrage needs to be seen in the context of the hundreds of years of campaigning for the common peoples right to vote & the evolution of human rights in general: the Chartists, the Magna Carta, the French & American revolutions, the antislavery movement, Thomas Paine’s ‘The Rights Of Man’ etc… Feminism rejects all of this historical context in favour of its own unique patriarchal conspiracy theory explanation of how the world has to work.
Feminism, which publicly states that it is synonymous with equality, has never once worked towards anything which addressed areas in which men are discriminated against or suffering from a gender disparity, such as reproductive rights, custody, genital mutilation, suicide (80% of suicides are male), boys falling behind in schools & not going on to college (many college campuses are now 60/40 female/male), the enormous gender disparity in prison sentencing for the same crimes etc...
There is no need for feminism to continue in the west any more than for the women’s suffrage movement to have continued past the 1920s; it keeps on only because of the political power it has acquired & the billions of dollars in private & state contributions it receives every year: there is an entire framework of gender studies departments, the domestic violence industry & women in positions acquired only through ‘positive’ discrimination that all rely on its spreading of misandry if they are to continue getting paid. Whatever genuine grievances feminists in the west actually had were rectified 30 or even 40 years ago, which means now they can only continue existing through fabricating rape hysteria & ‘glass ceilings’ & organizing ‘slutwalks’ - complete non-issues that if anything harm women (as much as they do men).
Finally, feminism is a hate movement: every single ‘triumph’ it has won has only been achieved through the scapegoating & demonizing of ‘men’ as a class, & yet has relied on men every step of the way to support it & bring about the changes it has demanded, which they have gladly handed over every time. Although probably few mainstream feminists would actually come right out & publicly say ‘all men are rapists’, that belief, that way of thinking only originates with feminist thought & was borne out of it. I tend to see the feminist movement now as a broadcasting tower which pumps out misandry 24/7, day after day after day, with no final goal even stated anymore, no end in sight.
I could ramble on about this all day but it’s a lot easier to deal with in smaller bites - if there’s any issue in particular you’d like me to go into I’d be glad to explain more. Thanks for stopping by anyhow.